1. Be predictable. When do the seeds of doubt come out? When someone starts thinking, what is happening? Why is he doing this? He has never done this before. He is the opposite of that. He loses 30 pounds, buys a new wardrobe and comes home late from work. He changes his patterns. His behavior becomes unpredictable. you get the picture? Predictable behavior can make any movement suspicious and cause confidence to deteriorate. If you need to instill confidence, then pay attention to acting. Be consistent with what you do. This does not mean that you should be boring. If you have repeated twinkles in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every time, there should be effortless and fun love for goodness. But, always be comfortable! Be true to what you have always been and to what you are.
2. Inform your significant other when you become “unexpected”. No person enters the life of a single person. We all make changes and changes. To be honest, sometimes we can be very clear about what is happening and where we are going. Those times can be very intense and we do some silly things or make some dull dumb decisions. Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable. (I have a favorite phrase: gold is refined through intense heat.) An increase in a person, marriage, or family is often accompanied by a small chaos. Welcome to these crosses, because a part of you is looking for something better / different / richer / deeper, but for heaven’s sake, inform your partner what you are experiencing. Say, “I don’t really know what’s going on in me right now, but I’m headed in a different direction. Be a little patient with me. When I find out. I can do some silly things, but my intent. . Not to harm you or to scare you. Accept some of my thinking and wandering and please stay for me! I may need to run some of this every time! ”
3. Make sure your words match the message. Meaning what you say and what you say. When your partner hears one thing in your words but your speech, body language and facial expressions are actually saying something else, you open the relationship up for some crazy-making days. Which message is she going to believe? This can waste a tremendous amount of energy and she learns not to trust what you are saying. Here is a very simple but common example. You are getting ready to go to a formal dinner. Your wife comes to you and says, “How do I look?” (And she’s wearing a dress you don’t particularly like and her hair is pulled back in a way that pisses you off.) Not to spoil the evening you say excitedly Are, “You look great.” You don’t really mean it and a part of him knows that you don’t really mean it. But, you leave it at that. It may not be a big deal – we all have done something similar – but if it is unstable to begin with, it is still more volatile. Here’s how to match the words with nonverbal: “I think you’re a beautiful person. I want you to know this. I love you very much and it will be wonderful to see you by my side tonight. Other people Will see your beauty. ” As you say this, you look into her eyes as you put your hands around her waist.) She is not too worried about how she looks, but is expressing the need for confirmation. She is not talking about her dress or hair, but about the desired. Know that the evening is going well You reply to the real message. You can take this one step further if you want. At some point you can bring up the need for her confirmation and talk about it. Ask him Anything you can say or do so that the need is met. Faith is awareness of the intention below the clear message and is reacting to it!